him2: If you're not married by the time you're 39, will you marry me?
her: heh.
her: bidding war!
him2: I said 39 tho. which means you'd be married before 40!
her: which means i couldn't marry him1.
him2: Yup.
him2: Tell him sorry, you're marrying me instead!
just do both. marry one now and then quickly get divorced like everyone else does and then marry the second one.
once will probably be more than enough, thanks.